Change is part of our lives, and in the current time it even defines reality. Officially, we live in a world of VUCA – or in English: volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity, which means that each of us has experienced, is experiencing and will continue to experience many times more revolutions in our lives than were experienced by our ancestors.

 

How do you prepare for change? What is the fundamental condition for change to take place at the lowest possible cost? Assuming that the only thing we can be sure of is change, we share with you five little-popular but important tips that will come in handy when you decide to make a change yourself.

 

First and foremost – change is hard. If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, that you just need to do this and that to enjoy the change for the better, gives ready-made, easy recipes – remember that they are wrong. Even if you reasonably think there is nothing easier than to start exercising, for example, our brains resist the slightest unnecessary effort – such an effort is a change in routine. Fifteen minutes of exercise a day, every day, may require special determination. With this in mind, it is worth preparing for the change we dream of.

 

Second, visualization. Do you want to speak fluently next year in a language that is still your Achilles heel? It’s not enough to decide that you will, and that you will start applying yourself to lessons (watching foreign language videos, listening to songs, doing exercises on Duolingo). This change must be felt. That’s why the power of visualization is so great. Spend five-tenths of a minute each day to imagine real-life situations in which you will use the language. What will your environment look like then? Where will you physically be located? What will you talk about? Who will accompany you? What feelings will you have? What will it be like if you are able to use a particular language during a business conversation or on a trip to a beautiful part of the world? The more detailed you imagine this moment or moments of your life, the more motivated you will be to do the sometimes strenuous daily work.

 

Third, prepare for change when you have the resources (emotional, material, relational, health) for it – not when the situation is completely unbearable for you. Often there are signals much earlier that a particular environment, workplace or life partner is not good for you. You tell yourself that you will endure, that you will put up with it. Life is not about “enduring”, it is worth thinking very hard about whether a particular relationship is definitely the right and nurturing one. And when there are signs that the situation will worsen rather than improve, it is worth preparing gradually for the change. Unfortunately, too often we tend to endure, making change insanely difficult and sometimes preceded by a powerful mental crisis. Prevention is better than cure, and it is better to operate in abundance of resources than in runaway mode.

 

Fourth, take careful stock of what will support you in the change – your talents, acquaintances, passions, life experience. Try to think outside the box. For example, if you’ve dreamed of moving to another country, but you don’t know its language well enough to take a job locally, perhaps an online job is the way out? If such work is not possible in your industry, why not – using your talents and passions – try to change industries? Assume at the outset that absolutely anything is possible, although not all at once, and be open to the opportunities that reality suggests to you.

 

Fifth, consider whether the change you are planning is in harmony with you. This is an absolutely key condition for positive change. Often we want to change something in our lives because we hear about it in the media, because it is fashionable, because we admire people who have a certain lifestyle and we would like to have one too. For example, we think it’s a good idea to start the day at 5:50 a.m., because successful people are said to get up at that time. We set our alarm clock for that 5:50 a.m., even though our body clearly communicates to us that at that hour it does not want to cooperate with us. Indiscriminately giving in to trends discourages us and prevents us from enjoying the satisfaction of change that would be most appropriate for us, not for anyone else.

 

This is why at TrueMe we focus so strongly on learning about ourselves, our own values, our own talents and personalities. Each of us is a unique blend of qualities that blossom only when we fully recognize and appreciate them. And only then are we fully ready for change.